Repeat after me:
Date someone who matches you in emotional development.
Date someone who matches you in emotional intelligence.
Date someone who can support you emotionally.
When you accept yourself you are free from the need for others to accept you.
i say “im gay” a lot for someone who is pan
You should probably stop???
wild idea: don’t call yourself gay if ur not
wild idea: gay people have monopolized every aspect of LGBTQA+ life including issues and accomplishments, you never hear “the pansexual marriage debate” on the news, you never hear about lesbian homeless youth, you never hear about transgender workplace discrimination! you hear the word “gay” over and over again, every other sexual orientation and gender identity is completely erased! white gay men have somehow become the face of our community so if other queer people assimilate into that! and call ourselves what they call themselves in order to feel like we have a place! within our OWN community! it’s not really our fault, white gays have made everything about themselves since forever and now all of a sudden they wanna say we’re appropriating the word “gay” by calling ourselves that??? doesn’t make much sense.
Also, isn’t gay an umbrella term for anyone that doesn’t identify as heterosexual?
^ yes it is
You are not a burden.
You are not a bother.
You enhance the lives of others.
People smile, not groan, when you text them.
Your voice.
Your presence.
You, matter.
‘I Kissed A Girl’ came out around the same time that I started kissing girls. It became a weird theme song to my life, like background music that you can’t turn off. Holding hands with my first girlfriend in public meant that someone on the street would inevitably sing it at us (in NYC, no less). And when I told some of my old friends about my new relationship, one of them joked, ‘Was it the taste of her cherry Chapstick?’ Meanwhile, it was blasted at the queer parties we’d go to, in a semi-ironic attempt to take back a song that was so clearly aimed at invalidating our experiences. Lyrics like ‘It don’t mean I’m in love tonight’ were a sugarcoated, female version of ‘no homo,’ making a pop anthem out of the view that same-gender experimentation is cool and fine as long as you have a boyfriend who doesn’t care, and as long as you don’t have feelings for the other person. That would be so gay.
Released on One of the Boys along with the similarly super-homophobic ‘Ur So Gay,’ ‘I Kissed A Girl’ was never really categorized as an offensive thing. Katy Perry even became something of a queer icon: Somehow after releasing a song with the words, ‘I hope you hang yourself with your H&M scarf while jacking off listening to Mozart,’ she went on to have her songs covered on Glee, spoke publicly against Prop 8, and was honored by the Trevor Project. She gets away with an entitled, IDGAF-what-you-think brand of homophobia while also appointing herself a spokesperson for LGBTQ rights. It’s like there’s this pressure to laugh at her gay jokes because she insists she means well. If you take her homophobia too seriously, it’s on you for being uptight: Kind of like how I wasn’t allowed to be offended when men sang it to me on the street. It was all in good fun.
Slate staff writer Amanda Hess writes, ‘Katy Perry’s entire persona is perfectly designed for the football audience, and it was only a matter of time before the NFL exploited her potential, and vice versa.’ She continues, ‘What this performance on TV’s biggest stage, aligned with America’s biggest sport, will confirm is that Perry is the singing, dancing personification of the Cool Girl.’ Who is the ‘cool girl’? As Gillian Flynn wrote in Gone Girl, she’s a guys’ girl: ‘A hot, brilliant, funny woman who adores football, poker, dirty jokes, and burping…’ Add ‘casual homophobia’ to that list and you’ve got Katy Perry’s brand strategy, designed to attract a young female audience while winking at the football-loving guys around them. She’s trying to appeal to everyone at once: Tweens, dudes who love sports, queers, feminists, misogynists… And she might be getting away with it.
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omg when ladies talk about their wives and just say “my wife” I just get so excited and happy because it is all possible and real. it’s so amazing and beautiful
DUDE my teacher canceled class the other day and so the next day we were all like oh no is everything ok?? and shes like “oh yeah its fine its just my wife wasn’t feeling good so i took her home, made her some soup, yknow fun stuff” and i swear everyone in class froze for a sec cuz we never knew she was a lesbian but then we spent a good 30 min of class time discussing whether her wife actually ate the soup cuz we all know she sucks at cooking
that is the best thing I’ve heard all day omg
this is beautiful
I had a professor who would talk in class about her wife and their four daughters and it always made me go !!! inside. like, wooooow, family goals.
In my undergrad, I took a module that had two lecturers teaching it. The first was very butch and would occasionally talk about how brilliant her wife was in the field and would talk about her kids and general family life. Then the other lecturer took over classes, and she would talk about her wife too, and how brilliant her wife was academically. Then they taught a class together and the penny dropped. They were talking about each other and both thought the other was the literal shit in their area of media.
It’s been delightful for me to watch my friends finally able to get legally married. Every time @crofethr says “my wife” it’s like a chorus of bluejays dance around behind her.
I was at work at a deli a few weeks ago and this group of three women came in pretty late at night. One was the mother of one of them, and the other two were just being really cute and holding hands and cuddling and whatnot. One was leaning on the other and she seemed really tired, so her wife ordered for her and the mom was like, “Married for seven years, they know each others’ orders by heart” and I honestly felt like I’d been blessed
oh my god that’s beautiful
one time a lecturer was discussing all the stupid reasons she’s been called up in front of the board (which include an actual formal accusation of witchcraft) and once a student accused her of homophobia and homophobic statements and she walked into the formal board hearing with her only prepared defense being “remember how I’m married to another woman ok thanks let’s go get lunch”
dchxhgsfahKasggzjz oh my god
I’m an optician and one day I had 2 women, one blonde and one brunette, come in to pick up glasses. I had the blonde try on hers while the brunette was talking to one of my coworkers. When she put them on I said, “Oh looks like they’re not sitting straight.” Without missing a beat she said “Oh honey, nothing about me is straight,” and proceeded to pat her wife on the butt and say “Honey, did you hear what I said? It was really funny. Honey? Honey, I said nothing about me is straight.”
me too tbh
